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Son Singing To Dying Mom As Doctors, Nurses Watch Helplessly Shows How Scarring Things Are Now

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People who are lucky enough to not have been touched by the COVID-19 virus, and have only seen this pandemic through numbers will find it difficult to gauge the impact that this virus has had on us.

Son Singing To Dying Mom As Doctors, Nurses Watch Helplessly Shows How Scarring Things Are Now © BCCL

As harrowing the numbers and the incidents that we hear on the news are, they still are somewhat sanitised

In spite of the numbers that we see every day, the real human, and the mental cost of the things happening around us does not become clear to us. For that, you will have to look at the accounts of the people on the frontlines of this war against COVID.

Son Singing To Dying Mom As Doctors, Nurses Watch Helplessly Shows How Scarring Things Are Now © BCCL

Dr Dipshikha Ghosh is one such warrior.

She recently took to Twitter, to share an incident from one of her recent shifts, that can only be described as gut-wrenching.

Today, towards the end of my shift, I video called the relatives of a patient who is not going to make it. We usually do that in my hospital if it’s something they want. This patient’s son asked for a few minutes of my time. He then sang a song for his dying mother.

— Doctor (@DipshikhaGhosh May 12, 2021

Dr Ghosh wrote that at the end of her recent shift, she video called the relatives of a patient who wasn’t going to survive, not for long, at least.  

The patient was an elderly lady, and her son asked for a few minutes, during which he sang to his dying mother. 

The song he chose was Tera Mujhse Hai Pehle Ka Nata Koi, from Aa Gale Lag Jaa, starring Shammi Kapoor, Shatrughan Sinha, & Sharmila Tagore.  

To put things in context, one of the renditions of the song was picturised on a child, singing this to his long-lost mother. Just pay close attention to the juxtaposition of this song with this situation.

Dr Ghosh continued, saying... 

He sang Tera Mujhse Hai Pehle Ka Nata Koi. I just stood there holding the phone, looking at him looking at his mother and singing. The nurses came over and stood in silence. He broke down in the middle but finished the verse. He asked her vitals, thanked me and hung up.

— Doctor (@DipshikhaGhosh May 12, 2021

She says that she, along with a few other nurses, just gathered around, and just watched in silence. The son broke down once, but managed to finish, after which, he asked Dr Ghosh for his mothers vitals, thanked her, and hung up. 

She continued -  

Me and the nurses stood there. We shakes our heads, our eyes moist. The nurses went back one by one to their allocated patients and attended to them or the alarms of vents/dialysis units. This song is changed for us, for me at least. This song will always be theirs.

— Doctor (@DipshikhaGhosh May 12, 2021

As harrowing a sight as this was, it was back to business, as usual for the nurses, and the doctors, who had to start attending to the other patients around them. 

While we often think of the families that have lost their loved ones, people who have lost their lives, rarely do we think about the mental well-being of the people who are spending every living moment of theirs, living this experience. 

Son Singing To Dying Mom As Doctors, Nurses Watch Helplessly Shows How Scarring Things Are Now © BCCL

Imagine trying to make the last seconds of someone’s life a little easier, a little bit more comfortable, only to fail because of lack of basic amenities. Imagine having to go through all this, day in and day out, in a system that has completely broken down.

If you’re someone who is trying to get their loved ones admitted to a hospital, and are facing issues with doctors and nurses, please understand, that it is not that they don’t care - on the contrary, they do care, a lot. It is just that, they are exhausted, physically, and more importantly, mentally. They are overwhelmed and have emotionally shut themselves off. 

Son Singing To Dying Mom As Doctors, Nurses Watch Helplessly Shows How Scarring Things Are Now © BCCL

It shouldn’t come as a surprise then when we see reports that doctors and healthcare workers are showing signs of PTSD and have turned to counselling in the middle of all this, that some of them are wracked with survivor’s guilt, like many family members who have lost someone.

People took to Twitter to share some of their experiences, their own stories of incomplete farewells.

thank you for giving them the closure ....

— Harini Calamur (#StayHome (@calamur May 12, 2021

thank you for giving them the closure ....

— Harini Calamur (#StayHome (@calamur May 12, 2021

Worst thing about Covid is that we can't even 'Goodbye' our loved ones for last time☹️☹️

— Memestics (@memestics__ May 12, 2021

For any doctor or medical professional reading this, including Dr Ghosh, we salute you for service, and will forever be grateful to you, for fighting this war for us.


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