There's always room for true love. It doesn't matter where it's from, who brings it to you or how many times your heart's been broken. When love comes knocking, you've ought to open the door and welcome it with nothing but warmth. And while you do that for yourself, make room for happiness for others around you too by acknowledging their preferences and choices that they've made.
When Colin met the love of his life on a dating app, he had no idea what lay before him. When he came across Andrew, while swiping, he could barely make him out from his pictures. It's the conversations he had when they matched that led him to believe Andrew was someone he could look forward to meeting. Andrew's added interest in Indian culture was something that highly impressed Colin.
They both live in Chicago and the freedom to express one's sexual preferences or/and sexuality is immense. Even though Colin is Indian, he understood the prejudices and the not-so-alarming discontent that stems from intense conditioning, towards homosexuals men, from where he is. But he knew, if his family accepted him and his partner, he wouldn't have to worry about anyone else.
Andrew's openness in admitting he really loved the Indian culture and his want to express the fact that he deeply cared for his partner, by making him adrak -wali- chai, made Colin fall more in love with him. They decided to tie the knot, in July last year, at Colin's family home in South India.
The celebrations were huge and of course very welcoming for Andrew and his family. They had a temple wedding and a church wedding, and Andrew dressed in traditional south Indian wedding attire. Love knows no bounds and has no boundaries, religion, or even sexual preferences. Love is freedom. It's an entity so free, that if it's ever bound, it'll cease to exist. And Andrew and Colin's love is the truest testimony to that!
They both don't know what the future holds but they know for a fact that love like theirs is unreal, rare and possibly ever-lasting.
Here's their story (narrated by Colin) on the Officials Humans Of Bombay's Instagram page:
“I was swiping away on a dating app when I came across Andrew. I couldn't figure out anything from his photo. But when we matched, conversation came easily–he loved Indian culture. I was living in Chicago & I missed home, so I could share my excitement for spicy food. But he sounded too good to be true!
2 months of texting later, our first date was over a bowl of Ramen! When he invited me over for tea, I was expecting American 'tea', but when I walked into his home, I was hit with the smell of ginger-garlic! He had a steel spice box & when he made me tea, it was adrak chai!
I felt comfortable with him–we were so similar in our beliefs. In 9 months, the universe played its role–our rents were coming to an end so we moved in together! I'd even make us dabbas with dal & chawal for lunch!
The decision to get married was simple–we'd found our soulmates in each other! We flew out to India to tell my parents & they organized a south Indian banana leaf meal to celebrate us.
We got married in June 2019 & had a huge celebration–we had a Haldi, Sangeet & a black tie party! After all, you only get married to the love of your life once!
Our family & friends helped us organize it all–we were surrounded by so much love. One of the best moments was when my dad raised a toast & said, 'If you have a child love & understand them, if you don't understand them, then love them more.' Our wedding was perfect! But getting to where we are today wasn't easy–I've been sent to therapy to 'get better' & I've had priests pray for my soul. But all of it has led me to him, so it was worth it.
The first time we went to India after our marriage was so lovely. There was an Indian swagat & we were showered with so much love. Our families accepted us beautifully–my mom always asks about him when I talk to her & the same goes for his family.
I don't know what the future holds, but that doesn't frighten me–because a love like ours was meant to be. We're going to continue making Bollywood playlists, we'll always come home to adrak-wali-chai… & we'll always fall asleep knowing that when we wake up, 'we' will still be there tomorrow & every single day for the rest of our lives.”
If I had a penny for negating the fact that true love exists, I'd fill an entire jar, but every time I am cynical about the fact that love indeed does exist, I go back to what Andrew and Colin share and reaffirm my faith in love, and more!