You may have certain aspirations while growing up. Be it professionally or personally, all of us aspire to be successful and want to do the 'right' things that society expects us to. Marriage happens to be one of those things where we assume the right way to go about in life, is to 'settle down' and make it all worth it from there. While that can work wonders for some of us, marriage is not everyone's cup of tea.
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This article, in no way, is an anti-marriage propaganda but instead, is a way to ensure you're absolutely sure of what you want. If you're on your way to getting married and you seem to have certain doubts about the person you're marrying, you do have a choice to decide a little more wisely if she's the one you want to spend the rest of your life with!
By 'choice' we don't mean stall the situation or make it obvious you're confused. It's a given that if you spend enough time with a person before you commit to them for life, you get to know about their quirks, habits and even their lifestyle, which is a very important thing to factor in. Hence, everyone who is getting married and needs a little more surety before tying the knot should definitely have a live-in relationship.
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You can even have a live-in and not get married at all, in case you think marriage is too clichéd a concept or you love living more liberally. Live-in relationships are practical and almost the same principles apply to this arrangement as marriage. If you've ever experienced a live-in you'd know exactly how beneficial or not, living with another person is.
It makes it easier for you to adjust without the interference of a family member or responsibilities that are only applied after you get married. Hence, having a live-in relationship before you get married is an easier way to determine if you're with the right person and if marriage is for you.
Here are 3 reasons why one should experience a live-in relationship once in their life:(1) You're Not Tied Down To An Institution
While marriage is a beautiful concept, it's not for everyone. You're doing almost the same things you'd do if you were married to someone. You would look out for each other, help each other with chores around the house and split the finances as and when. The only difference is, if you both are not getting along somewhere down the line, you don't have to make 'adjustments' and try and make something work when it isn't.
When you're married, it's tough to break away without the interference of family, different legalities, a lot of paperwork and the tag of 'divorce' that you have to carry around after things are over. In a live-in, you are free to walk out or ask the other person to leave, or mutually end the relationship and move on, without the emotional trauma of going through a strenuous process and making your equation worse with the other person.
© Thinkstock/Getty Image(2) You Both Have Financial Freedom
While it's a given in a marriage you're supposed to align your finances and depend on each other for income, in a live-in, there's nothing on paper, so just to be safe, you keep your finances separate and hence, there is a lot of financial independence. Yes, you contribute towards the space and the lifestyle that you live in, but you're not taking care of her and neither is she taking care of you. You both are pretty sorted financially and enjoy each other's company, without compromising on much.
© AA Films(3) It's The Greatest Test Of Compatibility
Yes, if you're serious about being with the same person for the rest of your life, a live-in is actually a great test of compatibility. You're dating someone, you can't really tell what they're like when they're not around you. You don't know what their lifestyle is like and you don't know what they like and dislike when they're away from you and are in their comfort zone.
It's important to know all this because once you're married to them, it's difficult to adjust to something you weren't expecting in the first place. This way, both of you can choose to live together, get to know each other a lot better and make a final decision, when the time finally comes.
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Apart from the above reasons, you also have time and space to plan a family, if you wish to plan a family with the same person. Yes, live-in is not entirely accepted in our society but we must remember that we have to live with the consequences of our actions and not the entire society.
So, if you feel a live-in is a good idea before getting married, or a good idea in general, definitely have a word about it with your partner and try it out for a couple of months to a year.