Hotstar Specials has launched Out of Love, a drama series that explores the idea of crumbling relationships in current times and the emotional dilemma that erupts from these complex connections. Starring Rasika Dugal and Purab Kohli in the lead, the show also stars Soni Razdan, Harsh Chhaya, Aanjjan Srivaastav and Sanghmitra Hitaishi in pivotal roles.
The show is a strong take on the issues that people have been facing in their complex relationships. In modern times where everything is about social media, the essence of real connections is, somewhere, getting dismal. Modern relationships can be traumatic and it's hard for the current generation to come forth and mend issues if their relationship is falling apart.
Do you find yourself asking why modern relationships are so hard to maintain? Well, MensXP got a chance to sit with Purab and Rasika and discuss what's basically going wrong with relationships front these days.
Are there any ways to rekindle the romance in a relationship wherein the couple is falling out of love?
Purab: If love is lost, for me, there is no way to rekindle it and there are no ways to go about it if you don't love the person. For rekindling the romance, you need to be in love again or find the lost love.
Rasika: It's hard to identify at first if the couple is out of love or if they are just going through a rough patch that they are trying to overcome and maybe just need a conversation to settle things. It's a sort of a grey area when you are trying to figure things out. I guess I think the best way to go about it is to have a conversation.
In modern times, that we are a part of, we see relationships falling apart and somewhere, people aren't ready to fix or mend issues that they have. Where are we exactly going wrong?
Rasika: I think it's not about the modern era. I am not sure if this is happening just now or it's happened before too. Now, we are more open to discussing it, maybe on social media, and that's why we have an idea that relationships are falling apart. I feel people shouldn't avoid the confrontation bit to tell their partner what is it that they are finding difficult to come to terms with.
Purab: I believe we are in a time where a sense of self is coming to us. We now have a voice and people openly discuss their issues. I feel the dynamics of every relationship are undergoing a transition and when that happens, it does have its consequences and it takes time for those minds to get mature enough to deal with it and learn from the experiences of the older people. I think if they come to terms with the decision they take, they will be able to fix or mend issues in their relationships.
Back in the old days, people believed in long-term commitments and cut to present, people are scared of relationships and are somewhere lacking the strength to commit. What has changed over the years?
Purab: I think, firstly, we now have trust issues and secondly, there is this fear of losing out and always wanting something better. These are the prominent reasons that I think of why people are scared to commit. It's not easy to trust people easily these days when it comes to romantic relationships and there is this constant fear of getting hurt.
Rasika: Or just a choice to have a life that has more options, which is fair enough.
As the show talks about infidelity, do you think cheating on your partner can, anyway, be justified?
Purab: I think to lie or cheat can never be justified. I think it's good, to be honest.
Rasika: Justification, there's none for sure. There is redemption for sure if the couple decides to work it out and never repeat such a mistake again. I think to err is human but yes, there's no justification to it.
But, when someone is cheated on, it's hard to find a similar perspective of love that you had before and it's not easy to go back to trusting the whole idea of falling in love. Right?
Purab: It's surely hard when the trust is broken. More than dis-trusting the person, you find it hard to trust yourself to make a decision. I think that's a hurdle that one has to overcome and the second is to instil trust in someone else. It's a lot of emotional self-work that one has to do to regain the confidence at the relationship front. If things don't go according to your plan, it definitely becomes harder but you need to remember that you're evolving as a human being in this process. You won't be the same person when you made that choice earlier.
Rasika: I agree with what Purab said. Yes, it's hard to get back but you do learn and you know what you don't want per se at your relationship front.
We have noticed that a lot of youngsters slip into depression when they face something like this. What do you have to say about it?
Rasika: It's not easy for both partners. I believe that one should seek professional help, if required. It's a good way to deal with the hurt.
Purab: Definitely, it's depressing when the chosen one chooses someone else over you. It's a breakdown for one's self and as Rasika said you should seek professional help and it does work. If you shut yourself down and keep everything within yourself, you would explode.
That was a rather illuminating discussion as we hope it helps you out, if you're facing similar problems in your relationship.
Don't forget to check out Out of Love on Hotstar Specials.