The dating game can get a bit stressful as it is and the last thing you need is a partner who is absolutely flawed in every sense. Dating a liar is one of the qualities you really don't want to see in her and if you ever come across that trait it's wise to see it as the biggest red flag and step away. But the actuality is that one overlooks these flaws completely when they're too into the other person and by the time they realise it, it's already too late. Well, that's murky territory and you need to see through it because dating a liar is like having masochistic tendencies. You begin to get too comfortable in the already existing mess.
When you start dating someone, there is no tangible way to figure if they're a liar. You could do background research to validate their facts but that'll get too strenuous for something that's just started. As you go along in the relationship, the lies become more vital and obvious and you're left with no choice but to confront your partner and get in to numerous fights while doing so. This can be avoided though if you watch out for signs that state your partner is a liar. She could be a compulsive one or a pathological one. The fact is, it's on you to figure if she's one at all and distance yourself from the equation as quickly as you can.Here are 5 main signs you're dating a liar: (1) Their Stories Don't Match
You can't always know if you partner is making up something or telling the truth but you can be on a lookout to see if things don't match. There will be times your partner will tell you a story about something and somewhere down the line you might come across a detail which didn't fit in her story. That's a sure vital sign. If you want to explore further to get to the bottom of it, you should know the entire truth. Sometimes there isn't a reason to really lie but your partner does it sound cool, exaggerate or make the story interesting to you. If you do find out she's been fabricating for no reason whatsoever, sit her down and have a conversation about it and tell her to be herself around you.
(c)MensXP(2) They're Ambiguous When They Lie
The thing with liars are that if you catch them off guard, they will seem ambiguous and taken aback when they're caught. They will try extra hard to make you believe they're telling the truth. Those are the things you need to catch. For instance, if your partner has told you she was home last night and you have an inkling she wasn't , just ask her straight up. She wouldn't expect you to ask so when you do, she would be a little startled and might even fumble for an answer before saying she's home. You can confront her if you know for a fact she was home or look out for more such instances to know for sure, she lies.
(c)Fox Star Studio(3) They're Overly Secretive
Couples are supposed to be open with each other while maintaining their own private space as well. It's a precarious sense of balance which one needs to maintain. And by private space I don't mean hiding things from one another, I mean some 'me' time, away from each other. But if you think your partner is too secretive and not open about her life then know that she probably lies to on whatever she's being secretive about. It could be about family, her job, her friends or anything under the sun. You just need to be wary, that's all.
(c)Thinkstock/Getty Images(4) They Contradict Themselves A Lot
Sometimes your partners can suck at lying and that happens when they contradict themselves on details like date, time and situations. She may have told you something that happened on a particular date one time and the next time the date magically changes, which means she hasn't kept up with her own story. Yes, there is a possibility she could have forgotten the actual date but look out for more contradictions in her story. If you think she's lying ask her to narrate the same story or incident a few weeks later. You'll know the difference.
(c)MensXP(5) They Always Have An Excuse Ready, For Everything
Liars have a tendency to work with excuses. That's the only way they can vindicate themselves from any kind of blame. For instance, if they're late for dinner they will come up with some really far-fetched excuses to cover their tracks like someone busted their tire or they lost the keys to their apartment or their dog had to be rushed to the vet. They don't think about the consequences of their excuses and can make one at the drop of a hat, if they're ever cornered. Its difficult to get them to accept their mistake and take any form of ownership or even apologise because even though they know they're wrong they will never acknowledge it and cover their wrongdoing with an excuse. If you see that happen one too many times, you know what to do!
Dating someone who constantly lies is not easy. It's taxing and disappointing. Especially if they cover their tracks and you find out later they'd been lying. We all tell white lies sometime or the other but someone who does it compulsively can create a lot of havoc and destruction in the longer run. The best thing to do, if you think you're dating a liar is to watch out for the signs, have a conversation with them as soon as you find out or absolutely dismiss the idea about dating them and be wary of the red flags. You'll save yourself a lot of trouble.