We don't live in simpler times when there was a problem in our dating life, we'd either sweep it under the rug or address it in a rather vague and ambiguous manner. But in all fairness back then (and by back 'then' I mean way before social media was even a thing), we didn't have too many complicated relationships or problems in our dating life. Everything was rather simple, like it was either there or not there. Today, though, there are at least a thousand definitions, terminologies, synonyms and urban dictionary defined terms for all the sh** we experience in our dating life.
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Well, sure it's easier to call out bullshit behaviour by inventing terms to suit that behaviour. For example, if someone didn't show up or stopped calling you, back in the day, it would qualify as a lack of interest or standing someone up. The matter would be debated both internally and externally and it would come to an end, where both people would move away or on from one another. But today, there's a complete term for such behaviour and it's called 'ghosting', which means the person who didn't show up had traits of a ghost, since they're definitely there but not visibly around you anymore. But as far as I know we all dwell in this misery and enjoy every minute of this complex giant wheel we're constantly on. Women love the chase and men love chasing them and while the chase is on, new and fresher words are invented to keep the momentum at par.
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For instance, a new dating trend is doing the rounds and we personally are quite fascinated by it. By we, I mean the 'woke' generation that indulges in soft play and harsh realities, to make it through the day. 'Fireworking' is the latest term and it's definitely here to stay.
So, fireworking is the exact opposite of stashing. Stashing is something which was propagated last year and it was a phenomenal hit because before the term 'stashing' came about no one really knew they were being stashed. Stashing is basically keeping a dirty secret. Well, not so dirty after all. It's when you stash your love affair away from family and friends so no one can know who you are dating. Fireworking though like I said is quite the opposite. It's when you date someone for the purpose of putting on a display for other people. A fireworker, as the person who's indulgent in this act is called, usually dates a person to show them off to their friends, make an ex jealous, to tell their parents that they're not awfully alone and tell the world through social media that my gf/bf is better than yours, to obviously build some kinda clout. It boils down to 'eye candy', someone good looking you wanna hang with so you get extra brownie points from family and friends. It's eventually about outward appearance at the end of the day with the millennial anyway, isn't it?
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So, anyway either you're fireworking or fireworked someone or you're being fireworked, which ironically isn't a pretty picture, unless you're okay being objectified.
Here's how you know you're being fireworked basically (or if you're fireworking someone, this is what you're doing!).(1) You're Being Used To Show Off
While that is rather flattering indeed, it's really not respectful at all. If you're a good looking bloke and she just sees you for that, maybe it's time to end the shallowness? Unless, of course, you want to bask in it. But you must know the person fireworking you just cares about other people's opinion and the fact that she feels good around you because of how you look mostly. Well, maybe ask yourself if that's a sign for a loving and caring relationship!
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If you have a look at their Instagram page, you'll see photos of you and her at different exotic places doing fun things. Does she ask you to pose in pictures a lot? Well, there's your answer. It's to generate envy and of course attention from fellow followers.
If you haven't noticed already, she's most affectionate in front of a camera, a crowd or on social media, while putting up pictures with lovey dovey captions. Try going to her for a random hug when you're alone and come back to tell us how it went.
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You could be her eye candy, the love of her life and the most important person in the room, all rolled into one when you're out in public or on social media. But when you're not around people she really doesn't care a damn. Does that say anything at all? Unless of course both of you are using each other to glorify and validate each other's self worth, then maybe it could work out as an influential experiment, but if you feel like you're being exploited by being 'fireworked' by your partner, maybe it's time to get a whiff of what's happening and move away from someone like her.