It's 2019, a year to introspect where you're going and what you want to become in the very bright future, that's lying ahead of you right now. But to get there, somethings should be easier said than done and by that I mean, 2019 is the OG year for all you lads, who want to change certain things about yourselves and make something more remarkable out of the remainder of your life left.
The 'fuckboi' culture was at a peak and still is in our country and the wave is slowly disseminating a little less voraciously, due to the recent ongoing #MeToo movement but it's still there. But the culture stands appropriately acceptable, as long as there is undulated respect given to the person you're involved with.
By definition, a fuckboy is a 'man' who has many casual sexual partners, but in practicality, the meaning goes a little beyond that definition. A fuckboy is usually classified as manipulative, shrewd, inconsiderate and assertive and sometimes, these things can and should be put aside to have some fun and casual, unadulterated sex. Although #MeToo hasn't put a demarcation on the fuckboy culture, but because of its prevalence, it does raise a a lot of questions with regard to the conditioning aspect of someone who is ardently trying to be a fuckboy and fit in.
So, to put aside playing with fire in 2019, we've come up with ways you can still be a fuckboy, but be sensitive, aware and considerate, all at once and it can only happen if you change certain pertinent patterns and turn the entire wave around, while still enjoying casual fuckboy sex.
This one's classified as 'fuckboy with a conscience' and it's the truest anthem of 2019!(1) Tell Her First Hand You're A Fuckboy
Usually fuckboys don't like to narrate they are fuckboys because then what's the point? But truth be told, a woman of 2019 would rather know your intention than play your wicked games. Men who love to score make up enthralling stories for women about their longings, desires, vulnerability and the fact that they're damaged (a term casually used by men nowadays), to get her into bed. Instead, just tell her you're in it just for sex and she'll respect you for that and sleep with you, if she wants to. But getting into her pants after spinning a yarn and then disappearing is just frowned upon now.
(c)Eros International(2) Texting Etiquette
A fuckboy's known trait is his texting habit and ritual. While in talks with most women who've encountered one too many, they revealed that most fuckboys they were involved with would take hours to text back, because they could. Honestly, it's a habit garnered out of showing lack of interest in knowing someone personally. Which is fair. If it's just casual sex, why do you need to text all the time, right? So, let that sink in while you decide to keep it a bit more real. Making someone wait and substantiating the fuckboy culture even more is just not something women are looking forward to this year.
(c)Twitter(3) Playing With Insecurities Is So Passé
Telling her she's over-exaggerating every time she calls out on something, lying to her about why you disappeared, texting her after hours for her to ask you 'are you there', manipulating her into thinking you're in it for the long run, when you're not are all classic fuckboy signs you need to change because this is directly hampering someone's security about themselves or about the situation as a whole. Let's go back to point no.1 and emphasise on how you can be honest about what you really want out of this semblance and let these games completely go. Give it a shot.
(c)UTV Motion Pictures(4) Fuckboys Don't Need To Hide Their Feelings
Fuckboys, or men who don't confront their feelings often, hide them in fear of the simplest revelation about themselves. It's how they manicure the whole image to make them feel unbreakable, when they're not. But sometimes they're broken and that addressal is important, but it barely happens. So, if you're using sex as a coping mechanism and hiding the most gullible bits about yourself, it's time to start addressing the way you feel and making changes with emoting yourself better, rather than hiding behind a garb of relentlessly trying to make an impression on the women out there. Something to think about?
(c)Eros International(5) Toning Down On Being Selfish Helps
If you really want to reincarnate the way the world perceives your image, then start with your flaws, which you've ignored for a long time. The biggest one being the selfishness that comes with playing the fuckboy. And that's unnaturally built and not an inherent flaw, so you can weed it out when you're in for an image makeover. Most fuckboys think about their carnal needs before thinking about the other person involved. How about, put your needs aside or balance your needs with the other persons. If the other person does not fancy a fuckboy and she's not in the knowing about you being one, then don't go ahead with the plan?
This isn't an attempt to call out ridiculous behaviours men try and immortalise and continue to do so in 2019. I was a fuckboy too till I realised my life is passing me by and all I have gained is excessive amount of karma for making a mockery out of how other people feel. In 2019, with the advent of the #MeToo movement, it's time to start fresh and change the way you perceive actions and inactions and make these changes more pronounced.
Sex is the need of the hour and you can find it without creating an unnecessary image for yourself in the market. You know what's in demand right now though? Just being yourself, that's what.